It sounds silly now but when I was pregnant I thought that life as I knew it would be over. Obviously my life changed enormously but I was still "me". It took me a while to realise that although I was now someones mum, I was still Harriet.
As the first one out of my group of friends to have a baby I honestly thought that we couldn't possibly be friends now that I had a child. We would soon drift apart and I'd become housebound wearing nothing but old joggers and slippers. In fact that couldn't have been further from the truth. Ava turns two this week and I'm happy to report that all of my friends are still the same. They've always been nothing but supportive and we still enjoy night's out together although they're not as frequent as they used to be.
When Ava was a newborn I couldn't ever imagine having time to myself ever again, it seemed crazy to think that I would ever go to the loo in peace again or even read a magazine. If you read my post about the terrible two's you'll know that Ava's been a little feisty lately, so when my mum suggested that I drive down to hers- alone- last weekend I did just that. Once the feeling of mummy guilt had slightly worn off it felt wonderful to just be able to relax and, in a selfish way, only have to think about myself. I had time to do my make up properly, mooch around the shops with my mum and even had a lie in! It was lovely. My mum made me realise that although I'm a mum, it's important for me to take time out for myself sometimes. A relaxing weekend meant that my batteries were fully charged ready to tackle my toddler back home and I've felt much happier since. I definitely think my happy vibes have rubbed off on Ava as she's behaving a lot better too. My mum and I have agreed that I'll take time out of my busy mummy lifestyle twice a year just to go and spend some quality time together.
I think time for yourself as a mum is super important even if it's to run yourself a bath when your children are in bed and to read your favourite magazine. You'll feel so much better for it.
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