Oliver is two weeks old today but Ava is already completely in love with him, I'm still getting my head around the fact that I have two children! During my pregnancy I felt a lot of mum guilt, I suppose with a 5 year age gap I was worried that Ava would feel that her nose had been pushed out with a new baby around, having been the only one for so long. Although she was always very excited about the baby during my pregnancy I was quite anxious to see how she would be when the baby was actually here.
The moment my two children met for the first time is something that I'll remember forever. Oliver in his little fish tank crib next to my bed, Ava creeping in and whispering "he's so cute and little, I love him." She's been a great help to me, fetching things for me when I've been stuck underneath a feeding baby and showering him with kisses and cuddles. This does however have a slight downside as Ava has a cold and she's now passed her germs onto Oliver who is now quite snuffly! I would never discourage her to kiss or cuddle her baby brother though as I wouldn't want her to feel that it was wrong or pushed out. I have found it a bit of a juggling act since we've been home, trying to meet both of their needs. With Ava's birthday now twelve days after Oliver's we've had a lot of parcels to open and I've tried my best to also be there for her, playing with her new toys, making time to put her to bed in the evenings and reading her School books with her. I think it's so important for me to keep the special bond that I have with my big girl. As Oliver grows I'll look forward to girly dates with her, just the two of us.
I can already tell that Oliver is going to be obsessed with her, as he grows and becomes more alert. Ava is already trying to play with him and has been giving him many renditions of "Wheels on the bus" with all of the actions, he'll love it! I'm so excited to watch the bond between them grow. I'm hoping that this is the start of a beautiful friendship, I'm so happy that they have each other.